Adoption & Abandonment Issues

Adoption I was to learn although not immediately, is hard to get right. As a concept, even what was then its most widely approved narative carried bad news: if someone "chose" you, what does that tell you? Doesn't it tell you that you were available to be "chosen"? Doesn't it tell you, in the end, that there are only two people in the world, the one who chose you? And the other who didn't? Are we beginning to see how the word abandonment might enter the picture? Might we not make efforts to avoid such abandonment? Might not such efforts be characterized as "frantic"?


~Joan Didion~
Blue Nights